If inner agony is a candle, then compassion is a flame. — Like me, I’m sure you have tried every move in the book to find relief from emotional pain. While some ways work great, there are others that obviously don’t. We can’t shame the pain away, that just makes it more intense. We can’t ignore it and hope it leaves. It…

How to make your compassion more potent. — Compassion is something that arises naturally. It doesn’t need to be forced, coaxed, or baited into existence. By manifesting the energy of compassion, you give yourself the power of healing. But before it can be used properly, it’s important to know where it comes from. What gives compassion life, and what takes it away Compassion is rooted in understanding…

But there is a peaceful way to end this habit. — People pleasing only drags you down in the end. I’ve done this for a long time, and it’s still one of the main things about myself that I’m working on healing. Unfortunately, there’s some advice out there that says being a people pleaser is a show of weakness. It encourages…

It’s actually free for you, but it might bankrupt your ego. — Having clarity on what to do is helpful when it’s time to make a change in life. But unfortunately we can sometimes fool ourselves into thinking we’ve found clarity, when all we’ve really done is blurred the view. To know if your clarity is false or true, it’s important to…

Don’t waste any more precious time being lost in thought. — I don’t always think about death, but when I get a sense of my short existence in this body, it comes with a heavy dose of reality. We all experience this now and then, and I think it’s healthy as long as it’s not obsessive. …

It has something to do with anxiety and expectations. — Starting from a conclusion isn’t a great path to walk. It pulls you out of the peace of the present moment and drops you into a story of the future. This attempt to live in the future is stressful. Do this enough times and it becomes a habit called anxiety. Anxious much? …

Trust me, I’ve been trying most of my life. — Incessant shame is the most reliable hell. Each time I make a mistake or do something I’m not proud of, shame picks up my scent and hunts me down. It seems there is no escaping it. …

If you’re burned out… then probably not. — They say we think thousands of thoughts a day. That’s cool, but I wonder how many of them are useful. Now, of course, there is a time for thinking. But when I zoom in on my mind, it’s impressive how much nonsense I find rattling around making extra noise. It…

Don’t let shame make it worse. — If you are on some sort of self-improvement path, there will be times of failure. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to write a book, get in shape, meditate, eat healthier, etc. Mistakes are part of what paves the road to self-transformation. It’s normal when going after something new…