1 day agoAre Your Perceptions Blocking You From Seeing the Full Truth?How to drop old views and build new ones. — Perceptions are powerful things that shape how we see the world. The downside is they aren’t always reliable. They are either built on a sturdy foundation of truth, or the unsteady ground of stories & illusions. The worst part of this for me was not knowing which of my perceptions…Mindfulness4 min read
Jun 21When Being Too Relaxed Causes ProblemsI misunderstood relaxation and accidentally hurt myself and others. — Relaxing is sometimes challenging for me. Not because I prefer to stay busy, but because until recently, I didn’t understand how to do it. Some of the questions that came out of my confusion looked like this: Is relaxation only meant for rest and rejuvenation? Does it mean to be…Mindfulness3 min read
Jun 13When I Surrender to Uncertainty, Something Cool HappensI start flowing with it. — If my anxiety is a windmill, then uncertainty is the wind. Nothing gets me spun up and stressed out like obsessing over the future. For a long time I thought that when I gazed into the uncertainty of the future, this is what caused my stress, but I was wrong. …Mindfulness4 min read
Jun 6True Love Means Watering the Flower and Not Plucking ItWe all want the people closest to us to feel loved. But it doesn’t always work out that way. Sometimes attachments, desires, and other kinds of selfishness sneak their way in and leave the other person not feeling very loved at all. To show true love, it has to be…Self Awareness4 min read
May 30Why Forcing Myself To Be Positive Doesn’t WorkIt never ends well for me when I try to force myself to be positive during hard times. It just adds to the stress I’m already feeling when it doesn’t work. Even though it’s a popular tactic to trade a bad thought with a good one, and many seem to…Self Awareness3 min read
May 23Why Accepting and Agreeing Aren’t the Same ThingWhenever I feel down or upset about something, the only thing that helps me move forward is unconditional acceptance. This means accepting everything I like, don’t like, or am neutral about. The concept of accepting what I don’t like felt odd for a long time because it made no sense…Life Lesson2 min read
May 16Recognizing and Stopping Story-Based Perceptions From Complicating LifeWhen something happens, there is the truth of what occured, and then there is the story I tell myself about it. When I’m caught up in a story about something that happened to me, it makes things so much worse. For instance, I’ll use a time I was driving and…Personal Growth4 min read
May 12A Peaceful Way To Ease OverthinkingIn all my time wasted with overthinking, I found nothing good in it. All it’s ever done for me is pile on the headaches and stress. Worst of all, when it gets started, it feels like there isn’t much I can do to escape. There is a popular tactic out…Mindfulness3 min read
May 6Using Compassion To Soothe the Sting of Shame Brought On by Negative Self-TalkI feel the weight of shame pulling me down whenever I make a mistake and fail to live up to my high expectations. I can’t stand it because it does nothing but stop progress and hold me back. The worst part is no matter how bad I want to get…Self Improvement2 min read
Apr 27How Offering Compassion to the Ones That Hurt You Actually Heals YourselfCompassion is the energy I reach for to soothe the emotional wounds that others give me. This switches me from victim to healer, and in doing so, it cools the flames of my anger and lights up my darkness. It helps me accept, and let go of being the victim. My attachment to being the victim only hurt me …Life3 min read
